There are several different types of personalities out there in the world, and my personality is such, that I don't like having someone or something having too much control over me. I don't like feeling 'dependent' on anything.
I think most "independent," "free-willed," people feel the same way. While I've competed in both beauty and fitness competitions, I never hired a trainer, or a makeup artist, or a hair stylist. I sewed all my costumes and created my own workout program.
My parents didn't force me to constantly challenge myself, and my friends were happy with who I was, but while I was content, I was never happy living in contentment: because my personality is also one that indulges in challenges and seeks to fulfill my potential.
My point is I don't think I'm special in any sense of the word because I believe the desire to feel as part of a larger process and challenge our personal skills to its peak lives within all of us. I think that in order to experience this type of 'flow' you have to experience life.
As Scott Peck's opening statement in the book, "The Road Less Traveled" states: 'Life is difficult.' And it sure is difficult. It was difficult running today.
It was difficult not partying last night. It still is difficult to stay positive when your dreams are not realized. But at the same time, I balance this negative energy I feel during challenge by experiencing positive energy on tasks that I do well.
Find The "Niche" In Your Personality Success
The No. 1 rule to success is that people who are successful are actually really good at what they do. The question to ask oneself is: what am I good at? What are my strengths and weaknesses? What gives me the edge?
I run because I'm not good at it. But I balance out my weakness with my strength in weight training and other cardio group classes.
In order to stick with a workout program you've got to start getting good at it. If all you can do is run 20 minutes per day only three days per week, then put it in your weekly planner and hold yourself accountable to completing it. As you become challenged, and overcome that challenge, you will be able to tackle more.
The gist of this is that you can't be good at something if you don't understand what it takes to be good at it. You've got to educate yourself on how your body and your mind react to different stimuli. Not only should you educate yourself on how your personal body functions and absorbs nutrients, but you have to educate yourself on how your mind handles adversity and challenge.
While we are all part of the same human family, I know that as a young, asian, female, I have a different body composition, different food tolerances and cultural influences than the white, fit, females that I usually read about in magazines.
At the same time, it is also important to note that while we are all specifically different, because we are all humans, we are all generally the same, so it is important to take studies and research them yourself.
While we focus so much on how we are all different physically, there is another component to success that we rarely tap into. Psychologically, we are all different. Some people excel in groups, some excel as loners. Some people are introverted, and some are extroverted. Some like to lead and others follow.
You've got to understand what your personality type is. Because while you may be going down the correct route physically, psychologically you may not be using your mind potential to its fullest.
If you need someone to lead you, hire a trainer. If you need a friend to physically encourage you, find a friend to train with. If you don't like being controlled, get the tools necessary to achieve independence. If you are an emotional eater, create better reactionary solutions.
Master Your Emotions
In order to understand yourself, you've got to understand your mind. What makes you happiest? What makes you sad? What gets you angry? What gets you excited?
Today while running, I got angry. I got angry because I felt weak. I felt weak because I had taken five Benadryls the night before and my energy wasn't up to par.
At the same time, I wasn't getting the results I wanted since I'm only human, and I desire quick satisfaction. And because I got angry, I began blaming things. I began blaming my predicament on the fact that I didn't own an iPod, or had a friend to run with, or a trainer to push me.
I got angry that I was alone. And then I realized that everything in life is a choice, and I CHOSE TO RUN ALONE. I chose not to hire a trainer, or run with a friend. My life is the way it is because I created it to be the way it is.
I think it's important for everyone to look in the mirror and remind themselves that their life is the way it is because they chose it to be the way it is.
It is much easier to blame others for altering your emotions, or blame employers for giving you a hard time, or the media for implanting negative body images in your head ... but the fact is: you can't control anything in this world but your mind, body and spirit.
The 'Psychology of Success' whether it is about achieving physical, financial, educational or spiritual results requires you to understand yourself. Understand your personality.
Understand why you want the things you want, and get angry or happy at the things that cause those strong emotions. While we all have a physical prowess in all of us to be outwardly strong and confident, we are not complete until we become a Master of our Minds.
I am not saying that I am independent, because god knows I am very dependent on my friends and family for a lot of my emotional stability. In fact, let me take this small window to thank my parents, my siblings, Mike, Ray, Minji, Brian, Paul, Erick, Dave, Gina and Vivian for your words of encouragement and wisdom.
What I am saying is that you've got to have balance. You've got to experience life and get frustrated to know where you are weak, and where you need to improve. You've got to face the fact that life is difficult and that in order to grow you must be challenged.
Don't take your challenges in life too seriously. Play life like it's a game: a game you want to get good at so you can win. Some days you win, some days you lose, but as long as you're still trapped in the game, it's best to start getting good at it.
Ten Tips To Mind Success
Here Are 10 Tips To Help You On Your Journey Towards Mind Success: