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Part of sexual pleasure comes from having acceptance of yourself and your body. Learn how to accept your body and tips on how to improve your body image...

Sex With The Lights On: What You Need To Know!

By: Louis Dorman

Part of sexual pleasure comes from having acceptance of yourself and your body. Not allowing yourself to feel vulnerable in front of your sexual partner strengthens the experience and allows you to fully enjoy every second.

Many people who hate the light carry a fear that if the other person could really see them, they might not be attracted. Though for the most part, this fear is irrational. It's all in your mind.

How To Accept Your Body

Your sexual partner, unlike yourself already likes your body as a whole, or they would not want to become intimate with you. Part of great sex, requires developing or achieving comfort with your own body in front of another.

For those of you who feel uncomfortable being naked in front of your partner with the light on should stop judging yourself while trying to feel pleasure, you won't be able to fully enjoy sex.

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To decrease the worry, try getting naked in the dark. This way, the two of you will be able to feel each other without the added pressure of eye contact. Now within the safety of the dark, explore your partner's body. Feel all the curves. Let no bump go untouched. Use your hands to study the changes in texture throughout your partner's body.

After you have practiced exploring your lover's body in the dark, and you feel like your becoming an expert, you are ready to begin step two. This involves getting naked and being in the light. Intimacy involves many aspects, one of which includes feeling comfortable in front of a lover.

When you're in the dark, you have a feeling of being protected. The dark gives you the illusion that no one can see you. This illusion acts to reduce your anxiety around body issues.

Do You Have Sex With The Lights On Or Off?

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Lights Off.

Now stop all this body-bashing thoughts that can sabotage your love sessions. Now concentrate on how your body feels, not how it looks.

Making more eye contact with your partner will also help keep you in the moment and heighten the intimacy factor.

Handy Tricks To Help

While getting comfortable with baring it all in front of your lover won't happen by tomorrow night, you can help boost your "bare butt" confidence by trying these couple handy-dandy tricks:

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Utilize Different Positions - Have sex in positions that highlight your best assets. Example, if you love your chest - be on the bottom. As you gradually get used to being viewed by your lover, your self-esteem - and sexual satisfaction - will skyrocket. After all there really is nothing sexier than a person who loves his or her own body.

The Right Attitude - Give yourself permission to completely experience sex and its pleasures. That means you must let go of guilt, self-consciousness, judgments and personal hang-ups.

Love Your Body - You can't have great sex if you're self-conscious about your body shape. Learn to love yourself and all your curves. From there, tap into your sensuality by thinking about what makes your body feel good.

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Be Adventurous - Now is the time to let go of shame and embarrassment. You often think too serious in the bedroom. So you may need to rethink sex and see that it's actually fun. Share your fantasies with your partner and discover how you can carry them out. Take risks - perhaps by being creative and doing things a little differently

Foreplay & Afterplay - It's not about copping a feel. Foreplay begins out of the bedroom. And don't forget that after play is just as important.

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Stay Fit - People who get more sex are less depressed. But to do that, you need some extra energy. So it's important to get plenty of rest, exercise often and eat the right foods.

Six Ways To Improve Body Image

Everyday ask yourself - What do I really gain from believing that I am overweight and out of shape?
Think of 3 reasons why you assume that thinner people are happier and "better" is foolish. Repeat these to yourself when you feel the urge to compare your body shape to another person's.
You won't avoid activities you enjoy, even if they make they gain attention to your weight and body shape. You should constantly remind yourself that you deserve to do things you enjoy, regardless of your body shape.
Refuse to wear clothes that are uncomfortable or that you hate, only because they divert attention from your weight or body shape.
Develop relationships that enrich your self-concept. By making it less likely that your self-esteem will revolve around feelings about your appearance.
Give your body what it really needs - exercise, healthy foods, sensual pleasures and relaxation. Then your body will respond by becoming healthier and more "attractive".

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Left: Before my transformation.
Right: After I transformed my body.

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I can't stress how important it is to be in good shape physically. If you have let yourself slide physically, chances are very good that you may be feeling somewhat self-conscious about your body. It's going to be very difficult to fully enjoy sex if you don't feel good about yourself.

It's also very likely that shedding those couple extra pounds will help to spark that old attraction your partner had for you. Let's face it - being in healthy shape can only help your stamina, energy once the sex gets started and they way you feel about yourself.

Getting into shape cranks your metabolism back up, you'll be more energized, more alert and you'll quickly begin feeling better about yourself. Someone who radiates a confident sense of well-being is much more attractive than someone who is embarrassed about the condition of their own body.

I'm talking about turning your relationship around and back into very rewarding one. So it makes perfect sense to keep your body as healthy as possible so that you can stick around and enjoy it for a long time. And that's the naked truth!