What attracts women sexually? This is a very common question on many guys' minds. I know it was own my mind a lot when I was first making gradual progress for a leaner more healthier physique.
In looking for sexual partners - Two very important factors come into play:
- What our body looks like.
- What our potential sexual partners look like.
Before going out we have likely put some energy and thought into our appearance by wearing clothes we think are attractive to others.
Our Physical Appearances
Many of us may also have adjusted our appearance for potential sexual partners by dieting, working out, getting our hair cut, putting on cologne, getting tattoos or piercings, having plastic surgery or wearing contact lenses - whatever it maybe.
We definitely pay attention to the physical appearance of our potential sexual partners - based on the size of their breasts, the tone of their legs, the length of their hair. Sometimes without even knowing we're doing it. We add and subtract points on a mental abacus. We do the same with the physical attributes of media stars, commenting positively or negatively on Angelina Jolie's lips, Jessica Simpson's hair or Salma Hayek's cleavage.
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Why do we do this? The answer may seem obvious - because it brings us pleasure to look at those women that we find attractive, governed by our own personal tastes. The world is like our own personal art gallery, where we get to pick out our favorites from a random collection of Matisse, Picasso and Renoir standing in front of us. But what does that have to do with the level of attraction? What does it have to do with having sex?
You almost never hear anyone question why we're more obsessed to be sexual with people who attract our eyes - since plenty of sex happens in the dark. Possibly the company of someone we find attractive, whether across the couch or against us, naked, starts or strengthens our desire or "sexual response cycle."
Even though we want to show off a new sexual partner to our friends, who will agree that she's desirable. Is it that some myth exists that "attractive" people are much better sexual lovers?
We choose our sexual partners based on many factors, from looks to body type to personality to earning power, and every person, consciously or unconsciously, makes up his or her own concoction of what's attractive. But when we evaluate potential or current sexual partners, our preferences are unavoidably sculpted by our culturally artist palette.
What Do Women Think Is The Ideal "Type?"
I asked 100 girls a survey of questions to find out what really is attractive to them. I wanted personal stories from their past about body types and the level of attraction that was accelerated by their physique.
I was very overwhelmed with their answers and I'm happy to share them with all the guys out there that spend hours in the gym trying to impress girls. Where their only motivation in this fitness lifestyle is women, sex and vanity. Don't get me wrong I like to look good naked too. But getting a chance to speak to women on how they look at a guys body type was intriguing.
Favorite Male Celebrity Physique
My Results:
- Brad Pitt - 42
- Matthew McConaughey - 21
- David Beckham - 15
- Mark Walhberg - 13
- Other - 9
Sandey a close friend of mine explained,
"We all need to be honest and just say it is a major factor. Saying that does not make me shallow, but if I have a strong attraction to their build, they need to have the humor, smarts and all that too."
Pani a model that I met at a fashion show told me,
Favorite Male Body Part
So muscles count. However, as with all physical things, there are limits to what is attractive. Like a woman with too much plastic surgery, a man with too much bulk screams arrogance.
Getting in shape is a worthwhile pursuit. Hoping to "Get Huge!" generally indicates an unnatural fixation with muscles and the expansion of the real estate in your body, an obsession only a few women will indulge and even fewer will appreciate.
How much is too much? Which body parts matter most? I took a poll of all the attractive, fit women I could find using their combined opinions:
"I love a lean guy- not huge, not skinny... just tight. I hate when muscles are too big and veins are popping out all over-yuck ."
- anglaly7
"Fit is nice, but totally buff is not required. Have dated tall, well built men, and have dated short well built men. Have even dated a couple of guys that were a bit overweight but they had great fitness levels and they were nice men! As you mature you really understand how looks aren't everything... and no I'm not ugly."
- luv2live
"I won't say it doesn't, but I don't know by how much. I know that if my b/f was a large slob, I wouldn't be physically attracted to him, but I would still love him. I'd say appearance counts for enough that it matters but not so much that it overshadows everything else."
- RSR
"Pretty high up there. I am really impressed by a body that shows a guy can do some hard physical work instead of just lifting weights in an air-conditioned gym. It's all about an attitude that values strength and power."
Gabrielle
"Proportion is valued to me. Nothing is sillier than having some guy walk around like he's all that, flexing his biceps when he has stick figure legs.
"It also reflects some things about their character/knowledge- perhaps their legs are so small because they hate training calves; so they simply opt to skip the whole damn body part? I like tall guys, they feel comforting to be around, but I sometimes feel more connected to guys closer to my height (I'm 5'2"), because we're more eye to eye"
- Rockstarsar
"I can't be attracted to someone whose physique isn't appealing. The body as well as hair, clothing, etc. has to be attractive."
- Hotgymchick
"Some, but definitely not all. I've gone out with guys that I wouldn't normally be attracted to physically but they had a personality that just made them sexy. Of course, that really doesn't apply to extremes, such as obesity."
- Signe
Conclusion
Attraction is different for men than it is for females. While men are attracted mostly by physical traits, women are attracted mostly by personality traits. Females don't decide who to feel attracted to with their logical minds. They "decide" with their emotions, and then make up reasons and rationalize it.
Attraction Is "Decided" By Emotion.
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Some men attract women well, while others don't and why any man can improve his success with women severely, no matter what his looks, age, or income.
When there is no sexual magic, start looking for someone new... simple as that. You'll be amazed by how quickly you can find more interested women if you just take the time to look. When I first got down to my ideal weight. I wanted to become better at speaking to women.
I told myself that each day I would speak to one new girl. I didn't have to ask her out or get her phone number. I would just say "Hi, nice shoes, you look great, Thanks" ...anything! I just wanted to become more comfortable at approaching women and speaking to them. When you are able to make girls feel comfortable around you then your level of attraction is going to increase.
louis@bodybuilding.com
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