One of the most powerful perspectives that we have been
exploring in our courses recently is that there are no problems in this present moment. I know that may be hard to accept, but what if all the supposed problems you have right now are just memories?
I challenge you to explore this question for yourself and at
least entertain the possibility that problems are just
memories. I promise that if you even just accept this
partially and work with it as best you can the way it is
outlined in this article, your life will radically transform
for the better.
The reason that problems appear to persist through time is
that whenever they are not here in this moment we look for
them. We actually seek our problems. We filter our
experience based on the belief that we have a particular
problem and unconsciously censor out anything in our
experience that does not support that belief, including the
fact that it is not here now.
Think of a problem that you used to believe you had. I
purposely phrased this question in the past tense. If you are
having a hard time accepting it as from the past, allow
yourself to include the last moment as part of the past. Most
of us think of the past as at least yesterday, last year or
years ago. For the sake of understanding what I am suggesting, please allow yourself to view the past as anything that is not happening at this moment.
Now, allow yourself to ask yourself this question: Could I
allow myself to remember how I used to believe I had this
problem? This shift in consciousness may make you laugh, it may make you tingle inside, or it may simply open the possibility in your awareness that yes, even this is just
a memory.
Next ask yourself:Would I like to change that from the
past?If the answer is yes, ask yourself: Could I let go
of wanting to change that from the past?And let go as best
you can. If the answer is no, Just go on to the next step.
The completion question in this series is to ask yourself:
Could I let go of wanting to believe I have that problem
again? And then do your best to let it go.
If there is still some clinging to the memory of the problem
in this moment, then repeat the steps from the beginning
until you can fully let go. As you work with this perspective more and more, you will find it easier and
easier to let go of even what you used to believe were long-
standing problems.
If you use this simple direct application of the Method, I
promise you the results will surprise and delight you.
There are several hooks in most of us that may prevent us
from being able to use this or any other helpful releasing
perspective. Lets explore some of these hooks so that we
can be free of them.
I suffer, therefore I am.
Strange as it may seem, this quote reflects the way most of
us live our lives. We identify with our problems and the
self-created suffering that we experience in relationship to
believing we are the one with these problems. If you reflect
on your problems you will discover that you have grown so attached to these patterns of thought and behavior that you will probably find it hard to imagine yourself without
them. We cling to the artificial sense of security that comes
from knowing what to expect, even if that expectation is
not beneficial, rather than being open to the uncertainty that comes from letting go.
It does not have to be that way.
Think of a problem that you used to believe belonged to
you, and ask yourself: Would I rather have the false sense
of security that comes from knowing all about this problem
or would I rather be free? If you would rather be free, you
will find yourself spontaneously starting to let go of your
attachment to having this problem and you will find
yourself discovering natural solutions as opposed to
justifying your having or being stuck with this problem.
But what will I talk about?
Most of us base a significant amount of our personal
communications around seeking sympathy for our problems or commiserating with others about theirs. It is not that sharing your problems is detrimental. In fact, the freedom to share with others what is bothering you is often the first step in letting go and moving on. Also, being able to be there for our friends and partners when they are in emotional need is a sign of being a good friend.
Where we get stuck is when we continually share the same
problem over and over again and there seems to be no relief. If you find yourself telling the same story more than once, check to see if you are seeking agreement or approval for the problem. If you are, ask yourself: Could I let go of
wanting others to agree with me about my having this problem? or Could I let go of wanting approval for this problem?
It's mine, thats why.
Pride is a shifty emotion. We don't just feel proud of our
accomplishments. One of the places that we can get really
hooked into the memories that we used to believe were our
problems is being subtly proud of having them. We subtly
feel so special for having them. It may take the form of
feeling proud of having prevailed even with the problem,
having born it for so long or having a problem that is
unique to just you.
Look at the problems that you used to believe you had and
check to see if you feel that they make you special look
for any pride. If there is any pride and you can honestly
admit that to yourself and let it go, you will find that it
will free you to just let go of the problem.
It's not wise to ask why.
Wanting to understand or figure out why or from where are
problems arise can also be a major obstacle to letting them
go. Would you rather understand your problems or just be
free of them? If you would rather be free of them, I would
highly recommend that you let go of wanting to figure them
out. In order to figure out a problem we must leave the
present moment the only place we can truly solve
anything. Plus, we only need to understand a problem if we
are planning to have it again or maintain it.
Look for the Freedom that is here and now.
No matter where your consciousness has gotten hooked in
the past, in addition to releasing on it directly, develop the habit of looking for its opposite. Most of us have gotten very good at finding problems or finding limitation. We
have gotten so good at this quest for limitation because of
our habit of looking for our problems when they are not
here.
The freedom that we are is always closer than our next
thought. The reason we miss our inherent freedom is that
we jump from thought to thought, from familiar perception
to familiar perception, missing the freedom that is here and
now.
Even when you are working on a particular problem, allow
yourself to look for where the problem isn't. Look for how
even your worst problem is not always with you now. If
you start becoming aware of your basic nature of unbound
freedom, you will find that this awareness will put all of
your supposed problems into perspective and allow you to
live this freedom now.
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