Ask A Fitness Model Issue 2!

Find out how to tighten your butt and thighs and get rid of the extra layer of fat, how to tell your ex-girlfriend you want her to lose weight, if breast enlargement pills work and much more...

Questions & Answers

What can I do to tone my butt and thighs? I'm very frustrated. My legs are muscular, but there's a layer of cellulite on my butt and especially the outer thighs that I can't get rid of?

For women, this is frequently the most difficult area to tone. (It was my most difficult area to get where I wanted). There are a few things that work really well for toning the butt and thighs. First, when doing cardio, walk on a 10% incline. This targets the back of your thighs and butt, and is really great for burning fat in that area.

Also make sure you are training legs with weights. I personally like walking lunges while holding small dumbbells by my side, and stiff-leg dead lifts for the butt. You can use the Smith Machine at your gym for the stiff-legged dead lifts, and it works really well. Also watch the diet!

My ex-girlfriend was in pretty good shape before she had our baby. I have been a personal trainer for 4 years and have worked out for over 10 years. I pride myself on my physical shape and appearance.

I want her to do the same. She has great desires to get back into a relationship with me but I'm not ready yet. Is it selfish of me to want her to be in shape before we get back together? Also, I haven't really told her this desire so how should I tell her?

Hmmm, this is a tough one. First of all, you absolutely should not tell her "you and me getting back together depends on whether or not you get in shape". That would NOT be a good move. If fitness is a really important part of your life, (I know how that goes) you want the significant other in your life to care as much as you do about her body also. Unfortunately, that is not the way the world works.

While it may be a high priority for you for your EX to lose weight, it may not be for her. No matter what you say she will only "get in shape" if it is something SHE wants to do for herself.

If you truly love her, you should accept her for who she is. Only after reconciliation, you might try to promote her going to the gym with you. Present it to her as a way for you two to spend quality time together. Then after she sees how important training is to you, maybe she will want to train also. There is the risk that she won't want to train, and you should only get back together if you are willing to accept her regardless.

I went to a trainer and lost a lot of weight, but have recently quit because I lack motivation. I am constantly told that I should compete, and would really like to. However, I can't stick to my diet! Any tips? I know what to do but doing it is the problem?

First let me say you are not alone. Everyone else on earth (including me) lacks motivation at times. You need to realize that even the top competitors in the world, male and female, only hard core diet in pre-show preparation. They do not eat like that all the time because it would be impossible to! Once you decide that you definitely are doing a competition, write down your goals. Hang up pictures of other models/competitors that inspire you on your refrigerator. Take everything "bad" out of your house. If it's not there to eat, you can't eat it. Even if you have to eat out, you can still eat on your diet. Nowadays, there is no excuse not to eat healthy at a restaurant.

If you know that you can't resist something bad at a restaurant, then DON'T EAT OUT while you are dieting. Find items to supplement your cravings. For example, if you have a hard core sweet tooth craving, eat sugar free Jell-O, or popsicles.

My secret weapon in my dieting is Fat Free Cool Whip. I freeze it to a consistency of ice cream, and when I can't take it anymore, I eat a few spoonfuls. Not exactly ice cream, but it does the trick. If you fall off the band wagon once or twice, don't beat yourself up. Just do a little extra cardio to make up for it! Hope that helps.

My co-workers and I often debate on the subject of women and relationships. Being a beautiful fitness model, I thought maybe you could shed some light on a couple of things for us. First, what qualities do you find most important in a man. Second, what is the best way to approach a woman whether it is at the grocery store, local coffee house, etc.?

I find a strong sense of ambition, (not ruthlessness or egotism) to be an attractive quality in a man. Every girl I've ever known loves a guy with confidence, a sense of humor, and intelligence. The best way to approach a woman depends on the individual woman. Personally, I like to meet guys I date through friends. That way, I know that my friends like him, so the guy can't be all bad. The best way of all to approach a woman, is definitely just to be relaxed and be yourself.

I was thinking of doing the breast enlargement and just wondering if you know anything about breast enlargement pills and if they really work. There is one particular brand that sounds interesting to me called "Femenique". Is there anything you could tell me about that particular brand?

It is strange you asked me that, because in school I actually had a girlfriend that tried taking "Femenique". She took it for a long time, and saw no results at all. I don't know from personal experience, but as far as I've heard none of the breast enlargement pills work. If you are really concerned with having your breasts larger, the only permanent answer is surgery.

Surgery is a big step, and permanent, so make VERY sure breast enlargement is something you want. The absolute only reason you should ever get a procedure like that done is for yourself, not for your man or anyone else.

How can I get my husband to look at me like he looks at other girls who are skinnier than me? I don't know how to get my body to look good. I know I am not ugly in the face but I don't like my body. Can you please help me?

You need to look in the mirror and realize that you are beautiful no matter what. There is always going to be someone funnier, someone skinnier, and someone more beautiful in life no matter how funny, skinny, or beautiful you are. The most important thing to make a man notice you is self confidence. Your husband does look at you the way you think he looks at "skinny girls". You are probably just so self-conscious about yourself for whatever reason that you don't notice it.

If you want to lose some weight, start a moderate exercise program, and begin to clean up your eating. Just make sure that you do whatever it takes to feel good about yourself. Once your self confidence rises, you will easily see that you can accomplish anything you want, and get busy achieving a positive attitude! Give yourself a big hug for me!